2016 has been the year of my transformation.I can describe it as the best as well as the worst year.Firstly,I will explain the reasons for it being the year of my actions that I will never like to repeat.
I messed up with people whom I had been following since a long time.Someone tried pulling me down and in return I acted as a demon(I cannot believe it now but I seriously turned revengeful).Then I dropped out from the race of my dreams that I have been chasing from high school.For a while I completely lost my zeal,enthusiasm and the willingness to work.I even forgot for a few months that I am still 20(so probably have a right to commit mistakes and take risks).This made me indulge into self criticism and I was trapped in a ‘cognitive triad’.I was too depressed seeing my life going directionless.There were so many contradicting thoughts.All I can now say that it was just useless overthinking.

However something that changed my life was my sudden interest to delve in spirituality.I desperately wanted to come out of my guilt mode in which I was constantly harming myself.Spirituality calmed all my anxiety and helped me come out of depression.It totally changed my perception about life.Then I realised how gullible I had been.By giving the remote control of my mind to other people and situations,I was ruining my life.I also met people who were in situations worse than me;people who experienced a sudden downfall or lost their loved ones.From such people,I learnt that I need to smile and be thankful in all circumstances as my ย condition is much better than so many existing on this earth.After all what I was experiencing was just temporary.No thing or situation was to remain same forever.

2016 has been really very special for me as it taught the real meaning of ‘Happiness’ and ‘Joy’.

Thus, I learnt the following lessons during the year;

*From Relationships:
-Never be pretentious.Be natural and express all feelings clearly.
-Never compromise for someone by sacrificing the real ‘self’.
-Love unconditionally(I mean no ‘give and take’,just give without expectations).
-Accepting people as they are.(Either accept or ย leave,no need to suffocate).

*From life:
-Never search happiness in people or objects.Searching in others means being dependent.This will certainly be the cause of loneliness at some point of time.
-Life is not a competition.It is all about giving the best of the ability.
-Accepting the results or the fruits of the action as they are.
-There is nothing such as ‘luck.’It is all a matter of past Karmic account.

Oh,I forgot to mention my achievements during the year.So I would love to tell everyone that I have got rid of my extreme judgemental nature!I have thereby turned into a philogeant(though a partial one).I am finally at peace as no longer I suffer from insecurities of losing.All I realise that each human being is on its own journey and so we do not need to be like anyone or crave for the lifestyle that the other is living.We do not have any right to ย criticise anyone.So now I know the joy of life does not lie in beating others but winning over the weaknesses of the ‘self’!

So for the upcoming New Year,I have no special resolutions except for one.It is to stick to the path that I have recently chosen for myself while keeping the lessons in my mind!


Author: -@thesoulfulempathizer

Learning to grow unconditionally. Philomath|Philomuse|Philogeant|

58 thoughts on “REFLECTING BACK”

      1. Yeah,dealt with it and had a hard time accepting it.When one is not able to fulfil own’s expectations,acceptance is very difficult. However I am happy that my period of brag and self criticism is over.Finally one more year ahead.This time I will try to make it work my way as per my choices.Thank you so much for your love and support.:)
        Wish you a very HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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  1. What a lovely reflection of the past year! I love that you share the specific things you’ve learnt this year. It’s a good reminder to people as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Your brave for sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings! Great work, keep it up!

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  2. Great going luv… we all have phases of ups and downs…2016= 2+0+1+6=9 which is the strongest number in numerology… it either make you or break you…. you know when someone asks me of resolutions I say I have none… except other than being a good person my dog thinks I am. I have grown out of resolutions….

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    1. Hmm….so I can say 2016 broke me in the beginning but ended making me have my own stand.
      Yeah,I liked one of your post which highlighted your wishes for the New Year.I loved the line ‘Resolutions are destined to be broken’ and so I have also grown out of it!:)

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      1. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ™..yes I remember… actually my daughter is home for a few days… and it’s a rollercoaster ride… cooking things in her chk list, taking her out for wardrobe shopping, streaking her hair, applying mehendi on her hands.. she loves it… and then cuddling up-to her trying to make up for all the time lost and store memories for next 6months till I meet her again… that’s why my visits here are slow…and I’m reading articles and poems posted on a delayed basis….

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        1. Oh great,have fun with your daughter.I understand that now is the only time when you will have to make up for the time you are not with her.Do not bother about delayed reading the posts as they are something that can be read anytime as long as you have all the notifications in your inbox!:)

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  3. All wonderful lessons. ๐Ÿ™‚ I took a larger interest in spirituality recently as well. I wish you the best in staying true to yourself. Happy New Year!

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  4. Your 2016 was pretty similar with mine. It wasn’t great for me as well, this time it was something else. It opened my eyes to many things and many people. It had its ups and downs and ins and outs and I believe I have been able to take something from that and grow on in particular ways. I’ve overcome obstacles and set in motion opportunities that can change my life. I too had relationship problems like yours, which made me lose my self respect at a stage. Everything happens for a greater good.โค This post is all about reflecting back but let’s not reflect more back. ๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Yes you are absolutely right and for the firt time I am really not happy that someone can relate with my post as to then 2016 might have been really painful.I really appreciate that despite so many ups and dows;you did not sink and continued learning and moving on.That is a wonderful attitide bro!:-)
      And yess Its 2017..cheers…so no more reflecting back!

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      1. It’s the hardest times that teach us the most valuable lessons ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for your appreciation sister. โค Yes, a new year with a new beginning, let’s make 2017 the greatest year ever. ๐Ÿ˜Š and yes, Massive success is the greatest revenge. ๐Ÿ‘

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  5. Sona, I don’t wanna give you big lectures here… But I can say one thing… Your emotions are very precious… Harness them well and keep them safe. Your Bhai will be there with you always to face your tantrums. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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